Change can be a source of fear, anxiety, self-doubt and confusion. Change is an inevitable aspect of human existence, though, and we must all learn to embrace it! Sometimes change slowly creeps up on us until one day we realize that some aspect of our life or ourselves has completely transformed. Sometimes change hits us unexpectedly like a baseball bat wielded by a hidden assailant. If you resist change, it won’t go away! Your resistance will only throw you further out of alignment with your own well being. When life throws you a curve ball, try to envision it as a spiritually-guided course correction. Life is not a series of endings, it is a series of new beginnings that will allow you to grow in new directions that can more fully support your ever expanding awareness and growth.
If you find yourself facing change, whether intended or not, take a deep breath and remind yourself that you mastered the art of change long, long ago. You have experienced many, many changes during the course of your life and have lived to tell the tale! You can do it again. With all of your experience navigating change, you can sail those uncharted waters with confidence until you land on a distant shore more of your own design. The lessons of the evolving circumstance need never be repeated and add to the wisdom you are here to collect. We are all here to learn. We are eternal beings growing wiser with each new experience.
So why are we so terrified of change? Why do we stay in toxic relationships, jobs and situations so far past the point of any obvious joy, support, growth or nourishment? Amnesia. We forget who we really are. We allow lies planted by ourselves or others that we are incapable, unworthy, not good enough to step beyond existing circumstance to fester and grow until they override our innate potential to bloom and offer our unique gifts to the world. Or, perhaps we hope that the toxic person or thing will change and that waiting for that moment is our safest bet. Sure. That’s an option. Meanwhile, we sit in our self-imposed prisons as the fresh, green shoots of our own power slowly wither and die from a lack of water and sunlight.
Perhaps our own fears, past mistakes or failures quietly whisper that we had better stay in these toxic circumstances because we are so miserably inept that toxic circumstances are the best we can hope for. Don’t believe it for a minute! You are capable of thriving; of experiencing joy, enthusiasm and zest for living – even if you haven’t yet learned to bring those qualities into your reality. Don’t let limitations from your past shackle your future.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”~ Thomas A. Edison
You don’t need all of the answers to start your journey. Perhaps you have only a secret glimmer in your mind’s eye of what you really want to do next. What options can you explore? What groundwork can you lay right now so that eventually you will be able to make a planned transition into a brighter, more fulfilling future? Perhaps the toxic job that feeds your children won’t feel as draining when you view it as a temporary floatation device supporting you and yours until your preferred horizon comes more fully into view. Perhaps you gain encouragement by talking to or reading about others who have managed to leave toxic relationships and circumstances behind and eventually lift themselves to heights they never imagined until they tried. Try. You are wiser now. Your own wisdom, desire and Divine origin will guide your way. Even baby steps will carry you in a new direction until you are comfortable enough to run.
If the changes you face have ‘hit you like a baseball bat’, allow yourself time to heal. Give yourself plenty of love and compassion! Wounds heal with attention and treatment. Look for the golden nugget within your experience. There is an important lesson there. Eventually you will be strong enough to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and carry on. You will know your next step when you see it.
Don’t resist change. Trust that you are never really alone in your life journey. You have support that you may be unaware of in this particular moment but it is sure to come into view when your eyes adjust to a new level of light. Even the most hopeless predicament will be resolved when you endeavor to allow change; when you endeavor to allow a new beginning to form. You have the power to make your new beginning the start of the life you always dreamed of.
You can do it.
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