Many modern cultures provide everything that we don’t need! Often the messages provided by our “advanced civilizations” actually lead us away from our own innate wisdom. Social and economic values and systems provide many false messages. Media seems focused on confusion, separation and every possible variation of human rivalry, strife and imperfection.
Don’t buy it. We are all born knowing and connected. Sadly, we are quickly taught otherwise. We are taught not to trust what we know. Many loving people see their children as blank slates; as beautiful little “things” that have appeared blind and dumb to be molded as they see fit. Or, even if our children’s physical needs are well provided for, we are not available to shield them from toxic emotional messages from the world around them or truly nurture and lovingly guide them. There is a vast multitude of children who somehow manage to grow to adulthood without even their basic physical needs being met. We have busy lives. Its not that we don’t love our children. Its just that many parents were themselves less-than-optimally cared for as children. Many are so consumed and overwhelmed with the tasks related to trying to fulfill skewed, socially defined images of ‘normal’ and ‘successful’ that often their most important responsibility is forced to take a second or third row seat.
In general, we do not treat children and young people as equals. We discount their wisdom. We assume that they are unaware. We don’t listen to their verbal or non-verbal messages. We don’t have time to really focus on their needs and act on the information that they give us. Often, a single parent is left to work it all out on their own, with little or no support from family, friends, community or bosses. No wonder there are so many wounded, stressed out people in the world! Today, we are pretty much all “walking wounded” either limping toward our own healing, masking our pain through diversion or substance, or projecting our anger and grief onto others.
Even if you had the greatest parent(s) in the world, there came a time when you realized they were less than perfect. Or, if you had “bad” parents, you probably learned quickly that things were amiss and just tried to do the best that you could in your little body. You absorbed all that you saw and heard. However you grew up, you’ve probably picked up some bad information along the way.
At some point, and the younger the better, it is essential that you take the time to deeply examine that which you know. Examine your beliefs, one by one. Are these beliefs that you inherited from wounded parents? Were your beliefs adopted as a form of self-defense or self-preservation? Were they implanted in your memory banks by sick social systems?
There are two sayings that bear repeating here. “Know Thyself”. I didn’t know who said that and looked it up. Surprise! It’s an ancient Greek saying that was inscribed in the Temple of Apollo at Delphi. Apparently the oracle of Delphi channeled this wisdom directly from the Greek God Apollo. He was the God of light and the sun, truth and prophecy, and healing, among other responsibilities. There is much truth in ancient wisdom!
The other saying that will never steer you wrong is the Golden Rule. “Treat Others As You Would Like To Be Treated”. It doesn’t matter if you are interacting with an infant, a toddler, an adolescent, a young adult, a peer or the elderly.
So, examine your beliefs. Contemplate the wisdom and source of the information. If you weigh a belief in your heart and it falls short or doesn’t honor everybody equally, throw it away. It’s skewed. If it gives you the message that you are somehow incomplete as a being or defective in some way, throw it away. If it leads you away from being in your own power, throw it away. If it tells you that you are unworthy of love, throw it away. If it implies that you are incapable, throw it away. If it conveys lack or fear, throw it away.
You truly were born knowing. You know why you are here. You know what gifts you bring. You know how to bring the very best ‘you’ forth. The problem is that you were likely taught by many misinformed people that you don’t really know anything. You have been brainwashed and conditioned to doubt your innate wisdom, to doubt your Higher connection. You must carefully sift through the contents in your mind and take out the trash so that you can reconnect to yourself. So that you can reconnect to everyone and everything. So you can reconnect to the Divine source of All that Is.
It’s a process. Remember to give yourself plenty of the love, patience and nurturing that you may or may not have ever received from others as you work through this important task. You will slowly learn that you can always trust yourself.
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