For at least the 3,999,999th time, I find myself behind the eightball. A day late and a dollar short. Up the creek with a broken paddle (hey, I am counting my broken paddle, er, ah broken computer…as a big plus! Count those blessings, people!). Like I’ve said before, it’s not easy being Hell-Louise, but it has taught me to laugh in the face of challenges…. like signing up to participate in NaBloPoMo on November 2 at 10 p.m. HA! Not a problem! It’s all part of being me.
Do you find yourself behind the eightball right now? Is your challenge a bit more serious than committing to post a blog every day for a month?
Act, Don’t React!
The most important thing to try to remember when you find yourself behind one of life’s eightballs is to keep your head (to yourself!). Reactions are often born in your mind. Don’t react! Often, our first reactions are not how we would choose to respond to a challenge were we given time to center ourselves and check in with our heart. Reactions often make matters worse! “Reaction” is an interesting word. We are often required to “re-act” with some form of damage control if we let loose with our first reaction to a challenge!
We have all reacted badly at times. The good new is that everybody will get another chance to practice how they react to challenges! Yeah!
When you feel challenged, are you in control or is the challenge in control of you? At the first flush of anger, frustration, confusion, embarrassment, pain, annoyance, or aversion, try something new. First, take a few deep, slow breathes. By doing this, you are creating a ‘buffer zone’. During those moments, try to become an observer; try to just witness the scene in which you find yourself without emotional attachment. Reactions are usually stoked with emotion! Unless your mind and heart are balanced, your reaction could be misleading you — right into the quicksand! The initial emotions that you feel could be false interpretations of the situation. They could be deeper, unrelated emotions that have simply been triggered by the current situation. You could be reacting to something that exists only in your mind!
Just taking a second to make this subtle switch in your perception will often save you the pain of making matters worse by reacting badly. After a few moments in the ‘buffer zone’ which you have created, you will be calmer. You may gain clarity or a broader perspective. If you need more than a few moments in the buffer zone, take them. Take all the time you need. Your heart has your answers. Sometimes it just takes longer to settle down and get quiet enough to hear them.
Challenges test us. They call us to take an action. You pass the test presented by the challenge if you act in a manner that does no harm to yourself or others. When you find yourself behind the eightball – act, don’t react. You will walk away with true joy in your heart.
Here’s to acting with heart!
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